i can't cope with my child anymore
Similarly with your husband. I feel like I'm being firm but fair. Staying in is a nightmare! I have not had a single day away from any of my children apart from when I had my youngest boy. But no, it's because we love our friends but don't care about my parents. Save tv for when you are desperate-makes it more of a treat. I had my daughter when I was 16 and up until 6 months ago she was an angel and now she has totally changed and I don't really know why or what I can do. She will often put a cd on or play with her dolls house. Apparently it worked anyhow. I used to book mine in for a few days a week in holiday to give myself a break (sahm).They obviously have basic understanding being so little, try and give structured 'destroying' time.. Please forgive the need to be anon. I dont want to carry on like this. I feel so angry all the time and depressed. He works 5 days a week morning to evening so time he gets in I've somehow managed to get them into bed so he doesn't see them as such. Your session is about to expire. We're all clear on the rules, so I feel more in control. I read a book called magic 123 a few months ago and it's been very helpful. This means a social worker will consider your child’s situation in more detail. It sounds really hard, and there is no one size fits all solution. To think that high levels of children being sent to school are the beginnings of lockdown resistance from the working age population. You need to establish control here as the adult. When “I can’t” comes rushing out, it feel like the response to an accusation. The second thing you need to do is to stop listening to everyone else telling you that you did this, that, or the other thing wrong. Kids like boundaries, and the reassurance of an adult in control. Don't be afraid to give them a sound bollocking - imo overly gentle parenting leads to poor behaviour later on in life in some cases (not a criticism, just an observation of the accepted current wisdom). I feel so confused most of the time but what he says to me. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. This afternoon I am enduring soft play because I’m fed up of them trashing the house in the name of play. im a 27 year old mother of 1 boy. Get DH to help in getting everything secure with locks -you can just put catches/ hooks at the top of doors, so they ca nt get in the kitchen( or whatever room you're not in).Then sign up for a parenting course because you have to crack this before the baby arrives. If they get down from table at meals just take food away-stay very calm and as matter of fact as possible- ‘we eat at the table in this house ..’ I find using ‘we’ helps rather than ‘you’.Routine is key. If, after talking to you about the problems you and your family are experiencing, the Social Worker decides that your child may be a “child in need”, they will carry out an assessment. They obviously don’t respect your authority, OP. Well as the title says I cant cope with this life anymore. I found having as little stuff out as possible for them to break or destroy. I found a bath every night, then quiet time/stories etc calmed them down-and could also shorten the afternoon if bad weather! Meanwhile we knew my parents had gone to eat at a restaurant THIS SAME DAY. OP - I agree that your children see you as a soft touch and obviously think there are no consequences for their behaviour.I would advise that you explain, in a way they can understand, that certain behaviour isn't acceptable and that there will be consequences if they are naughty. My partner lives miles away from me and is only here 2 days a week, hes the father of my youngest and unborn child. Look after YOU first, and get him out of your life, unless he decided to get his act together. I wouldn’t confuse them by chopping and changing discipline methods like naughty steps or time out. I do have a GP I find very good to talk to, unfortunately so does everyone else haha, so the wait to get in to him is rather long, and by the time my appointment rolls around I have got embarrassed and talk myself out of it. At first I had to carry her up to get room kicking and screaming and shut the tall stair gate to keep her up there. I never bothered. I'm struggling so bad I can't do it anymore I feel so upset, I'm constantly telling them I love them, I reward all good behaviour I try and take them out but even when I do that they run off or play up, if I take them supermarket they throw stuff on the floor and break it like melons and stuff, or they just rub away and hide in rails. And I was able to stay close to my friends and hang out with them regularly. Signs to watch for are feeling panic at the slightest thing or feeling that if something else went wrong you either wouldn't cope or wouldn't care. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, especially social anxiety, years ago but have always prided myself on a strong mind that could snap myself out of it, but now, it's making my life hell! Hi lost child, I do feel for you. I can’t stop being depressed. My 4.5yo is pushing all my buttons at the mo and my 2yo has hit the screaming tantrums stage. I just don't understand where I've gone wrong maybe over spoiled them I don't know. It's the life she chose. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 40 messages.). Your Housing and financial situation like are there benefits you are eligible f… Older child with issues causes conflict - can't cope anymore My ex husband and I adopted her when she was six months old. A large chunk of the book is dedicated to positive parenting, as the other side of the coin to the discipline. However, please make sure you do it in a way that's best for him. He keeps everyone awake all the time and tonight because I told him to be quiet and go to sleep he screamed in his younger sleeping brothers face and threw a … As you could then have some time for yourself and some one to one time with each child. sodrained Fri 09-Aug-19 14:42:34. I will keep this is point form Whispa...These work for some and maybe not for others... * Your mind is not nasty....its tired, the dreadful feelings you have are the sign of a tired and 'racing' mind, * This is the same as a physical injury...you cant 'snap out' having the flu...broken leg...infection...toothache, * Anxiety/Depression do release chemicals in the brain...physiological issue...the feelings are the end result. and even then, be sure he actually HAS. I can’t go on anymore (please be aware of trigger warning) I’m so depressed. In our house it seems their favourite game is emptying all of the toys and mixing them up together I to some mountain of toy hell. I don't know if I'm a bit too hard on her sometimes because of my frustration and emotions that I can't seem to get control of. but most painful, I've lost my ability with my horses. in reply to. I get up after a bad night sleep get daughter off to school then I have to have a sit down and I am nodding off I am so tired. i can't achieve anything anymore! Please someone just listen to me for once. I can’t cope with my health issues anymore and nobody can figure out what’s wrong. It was a great year. I’m anemic so I just want to sleep all the time, but I can’t take my iron pills as I know they will upset my tummy further. But it will get better. Q. Erin, I can’t cope with my husband’s demands. Sounds like you need to practice being strict- for example if they try to walk around with food, take it away. I've taken care of her everyday for well over 2 years now & in that time I've also cared for my dad for 9 months with lung cancer, at home, as that was his wish & lost him in August. I also hide away from socialising with anyone other than my mother as I can't handle the slightest criticism. I honestly cannot imagine looking after them while pregnant. Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. He was great but it would take me all night to try get him to understand what I can't myself, but at least now he knows I'm not avoiding him at nights. You may also cry more easily or … Take one swimming or something else you can enjoy together-they can be so much easier and much more fun 1-1-rediscover your joy with them.Do as much as you can online/while they are asleep. It would be a respite for you and would do your children good to have to fit in with behavioural norms (it could also highlight any behavioural disorder). that is clear. I’m 24 years old and a female. my partner either stays upstairs in bed all day or … I'm very honest with my feelings yet he refuses or is incapable of seeing me. I need a break, but don't know which way to turn. Stair gates on doors mean that it is harder for them to get into fridge or fill cups with water etc, also makes it easier for you to keep an eye on them. Things have got better in the last year, the summer before school started was really awful. But she too can daydream in the mornings. He can’t go out unaided and he spends a lot of time crying. Im really struggling and often feel like my only escape is to go to sleep and not wake up. My son is a nightmare and I cannot cope: I can’t live with my 18 year old daughter anymore: Can't cope with 16 year old son anymore. AIBU reducing Grandparents' care 1x day a week whilst I'm on mat leave? Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. We have! Never let the wee shits think they’ve got the upper hand. I can't cope no more, I can't except it and never will.i wanna be like everyone else I find myself looking at people and just thiking bet she has peace and quiet. I’m a firm believer that the devil has work for idle hands to do. Firstly... sending hugs!! I can't cope with this pain anymore : ... over xmas now feel like child under constant supervision, but i know it's for my own good, just hate not being the mum in control. I can't cope anymore d I've had enough of everything, I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and feel so alone all the time. I don't think tearing off the wallpaper, blocking the sink with paper and emptying a potty on the sofa is normal. Thanks so much for your reply. Now I am going into year 11 and I have no stress until now. I've had a normal upbringing, no major dramas. I can’t stop it from coming back. And a hug - you sound despairing. Do either of them normally go to nursery or pre-school? I think your health visitor would be able to put you in touch with something like the volunteering service that supports young families at home. There are sadly a lot of people in the world who hurt others, seemingly more and more often, but there is no sense letting that dictate my life, deal with whatever as it comes.Â, Thanks for your response, best wishes to you and everyone on these forums having their own personal battles ðð. i can't achieve anything anymore! Il work on that again. I just feel like running away. I made some dumb decisions in the past, and like many others got caught up with a violent boyfriend. If you believe in yourself, the DC will too. i attempted a social outing today, unfortunately came head on with my boyfriends brothers girlfriends, who individually I get along great with, but when they are together one gets very possessive of the other and I'm clearly reminded 3 is a crowd but that's more about her insecurities so proud to say I actually didn't have a meltdown over that :)Â, I will try to take the pressure off myself somewhat, re establish some routine, and get a handle on things. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. Sounds a nightmare, and being pregnant again you must be very tired.I had 3 children, and what 's coming across is that your home is not child proofed.You need child proof locks on everything - fridge, cupboards, doors. I do hope there might be something here you can use, I hope you can let us know how you are going Whispa. If he's a particular breed then try to rehome him through a breed specific rescue otherwise get in touch with a local rescue or one of the larger rescue groups. 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Wipe the slate clean, and start as you mean to go on...which I appreciate is easy to say when you are not overwhelmed (I empathise as I am too, just in a different way) The fact you are pregnant too, you really need some support for your physical and mental health too, @SweetAsSpice Hi thanks for the reply there is the kids are a lot better for him than me if he tells them to sit down and just eat there dinner they will, if I ask they walk around eating etc for example. If they throw toys, take them away. From a very early age it became clear that she was extremely jealous of any relationships I had with any of her friends. and if you can't even cope with it anymore that is a clear indication that this isn't a good situation to be in! He is 83 - some might say he's had a good innings, but he's still my Dad and I feel I can't make him smile any more. My two (3&5) drive me up the wall! I think they see you as a soft touch. Forum Member. It’s homestart that supports families with under fives. Is there a DP in this to support you?I think you need to reach out ASAP to a health visitor, explain the situation, and ask them for help. I can't cope with my life anymore, I want it all to go away. Just to make something clearer, with the magic 123 the idea is that you can just day "that's a 1" and they'll pack it in!!! I am constantly nervous, heart racing, mood swings! But you have to follow through and be prepared for a lot of whingeing till they get used to the new order.And I get that at 20 weeks you are probably exhausted, but it sounds as though they need wearing out - is there a small children's play park near you where they can't escape and they can wear themselves out safely? They should not be able to access anything messy/dangerous. Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Their reception teacher will thank you for sorting it before they hit the classroom- she’ll have enough feral kids to deal with. via YouTube Capture. Craft, paper to rip and stick through times when yiu need to tell them off for inside damage.Run them in park for hours every day. I dont sleep because my … Sometimes, I feel the … Â It is an exhausting state of mind that's for sure as many know. * Do you have a GP you are comfortable with Whispa? Be 'Kind' to yourself, you mind is still strong...just tired...like over revving an engine...pull back on the reigns.. Great start to healing by the way in having the courage to post. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. I start questioning whether I am at some kind of fault. I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! Things need to go back to basics with expectations and house rules. Derbychick Posts: 554. We also have a cat who he looks for in the house at least 3 times an hour and if he can’t find him it sends him into a blind panic - … Taking your life though wouldn't be an answer & even though you are not seeing your children at the moment you are still their Dad & at some stage I am sure you will get access again & they need to know their Dad is there for them so always think about that if you are feeling down . It might be totally different for you! I just can’t cope anymore. I'm from the UK and don't no a single person with tinnitus so I feel all alone I wish I knew at least one person with tinnitus . I have a similar age gap and I've worked with pre-schoolers. I don’t know what to do. 21 February 2016 It’s interesting that they behave for their dad, but not you. I will never abandon taking care of him-as I've told him. You can do this, OP. I can't cope with my son anymore, I literally have no control over him anymore. Husband's depression - I can't cope anymore Post by ajem » Thu Mar 09, 2017 5:59 pm My husband and I have been married for ten years, we have two children and for the last 7 years my husband has been battling with depression. Your child’s needs 2. I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try … I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! I am depressed because I can’t do anything due to health and I’m on my own a single Mum. Take them out for physical play every day if possible. @genie - Surestart, not available nationwide but worth a try OP. He has brought this upon himself. I’d spend much less time on cleaning, and more on activities to occupy the troops, improving their behaviour. However I came out of that with my son, and my life is now what you would call as close to perfect as could be. I get no help from family at all I get no break unless they are at school which my DD doesn't start full time until late September so I'm hoping she improves then. Please help us improve the lives of people affected by anxiety, depression and suicide, Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. I know I did. Stay out as long as you can, then straight into winding down tidy/ tea/ bath / story / bed routine. And once it's done, it's done, we don't talk about it again. * Try to take your boyfriend to your GP with you..It will help him help you.. * Please avoid being 'busy' You can achieve the same results using half of the energy. You have 2 minutes left before being logged out. Do you have enough funds for childcare ? I find it really helpful to have a tight routine..doing similar tasks each day...what I mean is... breakfast...Having a wash...then straight to get dressed... Then whatever we are doing that day... Our mornings always start the same... Could you ask your husband to have a day off...so you can have some me time...it's important you deal with this together and you look after your own well being! Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost. I spoke to my boyfriend about some of it earlier. I feel so selfish and silly when I think about the way I … Remember all parents have things they struggle with, I found the toddler stage easy-teens not so much! I am doing a Tafe course as well as my regular schooling, and I honestly can’t cope. the guys is using you. Getting support â how much does it cost? Great advice @Babdoc - I need to take a leaf out of your book! Babdoc that is great advice! I need a word. When you've had your next baby I would suggest looking for work even if you only end up earning enough to cover childcare. Do you have a routine? I also agree with the advice to get out of the house!!!! However, after 5 years I can't suppress my physical and emotional needs anymore. God bless. However!!! I have no enjoyment, I cannot cope with my children and I can't see a way to get my … She ate and drank whatever she wanted, didn't lose weight and missed doctors appointments. I feel like I have failed as a mother and I don't know what to do anymore. The only thing that helps me through the rock bottom times is my belief in angels, past on to me when i lost my mother in law. If they scream and fuss tell them they must be tired and start bath/ bed routine.Lots of people have already recommended masses of exercise, so go to the park, take a picnic. Sooner or later, most of us who try to cope with depression feel so overwhelmed that all we can hold onto is: I just can’t do it. But now she will take herself up. I cant do this anymore, i have no motivation, depleated mentaly, always tired, my mind doesnt stop racing, I am diagnosed as depressed, i take 300mg of my medication a day, and somedays i go to 450mg, which numbs me down, but little less anxiuos, and feel clamer, I am stressed, it is impacting by work, no motovation. My 10 year old is my daughter who is a mother hen. Last night my brother had a go at me for shouting at her & something inside me just snapped. Op, it's very normal, small dc are bloody hard work. Best of luck. I’ve been in bed most of sunday and most of today with an ongoing migraine which I know has been because of the stress of arguing. Try and do stuff with only 1 child -put the other into playgroup/leave with DH etc)-I found they were far less likely to run away on their own (far less brave!). I am obsessed with the news, and all the murders and home invasions etc, that I am 90% of the time terrified of it happening! I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try on about 15 outfits to go anywhere. He should be a responsible man and look after you and his child! And there’ll be far less wreckage to clean at home. I barely cope with mine but what I do find helps is getting out every morning at 9 and heading to somewhere with open space - the woods is my favourite - for them to run around and explore. So im indoors alone with all 4 children a lot. There's no discussion, no negotiation, and it's used for all scenarios from whinging, back chat, through to fighting with her brother, or yesterday, throwing all her toys down the stairs then getting her 2yo brother to slide down them on a dressing gown Hitting is an immediate "3". Sounds tough. I'm at my wits end with this stupid tinnitus in both ears. Whenever I fail to cope up any emotional turmoils, excessive pressure or conflict, I distract myself from everything with over sleeping and over eating. If she get a 3, she gets told "that's a 3" and goes to her room for a "calm down". And so much more, all due to my mind will not shut up! Locks on cupboards etc-whatever makes life easier and stops them causing havoc. Can't cope with my children anymore (40 Posts) Add message | Report. (They must have been pre/primary age - I don't remember it at all but it has clearly burned into their memories!!) I have been able to do my school work to a better degree then I have before. Also I avoid shops and crowded places at all costs. But then we let things slide and have to get back on it. Try and tidy toys out of reach, then take one thing at a time out to play with (duplo/play food etc). She is now almost blind, is on dialysis and awaiting a kidney transplant. Can't think what it's called but you get someone who becomes a family friend basically and helps mums struggling with young children. Every Yr of age know what to do anymore avoid shops and crowded places at all costs you meet needs. 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